Friday, July 31, 2009

ASKING FOR AND ACCEPTING HELP

On Fridays I have sent an email to many friends with an inspiring story. I have decided to put at least some of the significant quotes on this blog because they can stir our own thinking to where we can see change where it is needed.

It’s common knowledge that, globally, business people are being inundated by one challenge after another. These are considered by most everyone, tough times. Personally, I’ve been in business for a long time. This is my 41st year in this business. I have a number of companies that operate globally and like everyone else, we’re experiencing challenges on a number of fronts. However, over the course of these 41 years, I’ve seen this happen more than once. Fortunately I’ve always weathered the storm … and not by accident - by design. I thought I’d share with you today some of the ideas that have helped me to keep moving in the right direction.

.....You see, I learned that one of the great secrets in life is recognizing when you need help and graciously accepting it. I coach people from all over the world, and I do this because the coaches I had made such an enormous difference in my life. The changes I experienced came fast and furious and they’ve all been long lasting. The names of the 6 people are Raymond Douglas Stanford, Earl Nightingale, Lloyd Conant, Val Van De Wall, Dr. C. Harry Roder, and Bill Gove. Let me touch on each of them, one at a time because I believe the lessons I learned will benefit you, as well.

I was working in a fire hall in Toronto when I was 26 years old, and I was not a very happy person. I was earning $4,000/year and I owed $6,000. The idea of getting out of debt never entered my mind. That’s when Ray Stanford entered my life. He encouraged me to take an honest look at the results I was getting. He said “Bob, you keep talking about not having a formal education and using it as an excuse for getting poor results.” He then said, “Those are only reasons why you’re not getting what you want. Set those aside and start to focus on all the reasons you can get what you what.” Then he gave me Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich. He said, “Bob, if you will make the commitment to do exactly what this book says and to do exactly what I suggest, I’ll help you change your life.” I didn’t really believe I could, but I believed he believed I could. And it was his belief in me that inspired me to begin to study. One year later, I was earning $175,000 a year and, from there, I took it to over a million a year. I didn’t know what was happening to me, but I was beginning to realize a lot of the things that I had been thinking weren’t true. I thought some people were lucky but others weren’t. I was to find out that you and I have exactly the same potential.

I then got a hold of Earl Nightingale’s condensed narration of the Napoleon Hill book, Think And Grow Rich on a record. I began listening to that record every day.......Earl Nightingale taught me how to study. He said, “Don’t just read the book, study it. Attempt to understand the idea the author is attempting to communicate in each paragraph. To do that you might need to study that paragraph for a month.”

As I’m writing this story, I’m surrounded by a few thousand books in my own library, all of which I’ve studied. Lloyd Conant taught me to take the lid off my mind and let it soar. He said, “Bob, nothing is big or small, except our thinking makes it so. No one alive knows what we’re capable of doing. Go after something big. Even if you miss, it can be exhilarating.”

........On Earl Nightingale’s recording of The Magic Word … the magic word being Attitude … at one point he says, “Now right here we come to a rather strange fact. We tend to minimize the things we can do, the goals we can accomplish, and for some equally strange reason we think other people can accomplish things that we cannot. I want you to understand that that is not true. You have deep reservoirs of talent and ability within you that you can bring to the surface and achieve all that you desire.”

.......I want to leave you with one thought: These are only tough times if you think of them as tough times. I see these as good times. It is times like these that cause us to grow… to dig down deep inside and bring something out of ourselves that we might not have known was there. I am very pleased that I have been able to share what I have learned with many thousands of people from every walk of life through our Coaching Program. I’ve watched people who were in financial trouble become prosperous; companies that were struggling grow into viable organizations. Any way a person can be helped, I’ve seen it happen because the answers are within us. And, because of what these great men taught me, I was able to pass it along.

[If you would like to change, let me help you learn what my coaches taught me. If you think I could help you, send me an email at bob@bobproctorcoaching.com and I’ll get back to you.]


.,..............Bob Proctor Chairman Life Success Productions.


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Thursday, July 30, 2009

Love Yourself This Summer . . .

Summer has begun and with it some people worry too much about how they are going to look in that bathing suit. Whether you are truly overweight or just stressing about how you look, it's time to stop the self-criticism.

It's important to realize that all of our actions are designed to meet a need. Oftentimes, being overweight is caused by insecurity, self-rejection, and fear of our own feelings, while overeating is usually an attempt to love and nurture ourselves with food. The original problem may very well stem from childhood beliefs and choices. Once seen and addressed, these outdated beliefs can be released for new ones that serve us now as complete and perfect adults. Filling our minds with pleasant thoughts is the quickest road to health.

Start today by saying these affirmations and posting them somewhere in your home:

I love my body exactly as it is.
I release the fear of food.
Every morsel I eat rejuvenates my cells.
I love to exercise.
I have respect and a high regard for myself.
I balance my life around work, rest, and play.
I support, love, and accept myself unconditionally.
I am happy and peaceful beyond my wildest dreams.

Enjoy the summer! ............Louise Hay

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Tuesday, July 28, 2009

New Beginnings

This is a new experience for me. I am willing to try having a blog and see what response I get and how much time it consumes. I will share the materials that come to me through various ways in hopes that others will enjoy them.

Some things may come across as not very "religious" and that is fine with me. It is not "religion" but a relationship with God that is necessary. I am not afraid to read or hear anything because my trust is in God. If writers, that are not ordinarily accepted in main stream Christianity have something good to say, it matters not to me that they are not accepted. If it is a correct statement then I want to know it. Many times others have a handle on things that we are too close to the situation to see clearly.

One thing that I have always desired is to have wisdom. "Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment." Proverbs 4:7. (NLT) So in my quest for wisdom I find many things that I want to share. We all need to exercise discernment for ourselves but we can eat the grapes and spit out the seeds. Get all the good we can and discard what doesn't apply to us.

So here goes.... a new adventure!!


Enlarge Your Life with Compassion and Consideration

It is within relationships that we grow as individuals in everything valuable, because it is through them that we become stronger and wiser, allowing us to realize a love that transcends our unseen self-limiting self-interests. What do we have to do to change the balance sheet of our lives so that for every measure of impatience and intolerance there may be at least an equivalent sum of compassion and consideration?

Your willingness to work your way through the following special exercises -- striving to employ these higher ideals in your relationships with others -- will show you how to use each developing moment in your relationships with family, friends, and coworkers to consciously change your relationship with yourself.

1) Let anyone who wants to psychologically defeat you have his victory, and do it without revealing that you chose to give him the last word.

2) In any moment of consequence, be as willing to see that you may be wrong as you are convinced that you are always right.

3) Even when you know that you are solidly in the right, rather than rub it in, sacrifice your righteousness.

4) Should a sarcastic or unkind remark pop into your mind to tease, torment, or in any way "trash" another person, try swallowing it first to see how it tastes before you dish it out.

5) Let there be times when you don't tell someone everything you know about her problem, even if your understanding of it is better than hers.

6) When feeling displeased with someone, don't show your displeasure, and save any necessary correction for a later time.

7) There are times when the greatest strength (and kindness) one can possess is to allow another his weakness without pointing it out or otherwise punishing him for it.

Keep in mind that everything true we discover about ourselves enlarges our relationship with life. .......Guy Finley http://www.guyfinley.com/

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